Monday, December 29, 2014

Why Simpletons always face the brunt of life?

Why Simpletons always face the brunt of life and the Smarty are laughing and enjoying life?

Smartys are the appreciated lot and they have a sense of “achievement” while Simpletons feel like losers. Just look around yourself in your offices. Do you see yourself as Simpletons or Smartys? Most of the time I get intrigued by this basic fact of life.

Little research shows that Simpletons always think from their heart and Smartys from Mind.
In order to survive, man has do all calculation and permutation and combination. With calculation you realize the good and the bad in life. Both the Simpletons and Smartys use Mind to calculate what is good and bad for them.
So far both the kind of man think in the same way. However Simpletons mostly use Heart after Mind to “feel” while Smartys use less Heart after Mind to “feel”.

If you see Simpletons are mostly “passive” people and Smartys are the “aggressive” lot.Smartys capture the centre stage while Simpletons are sidelined.What is good? Being Aggressive or being Passive. Aggressive (Smartys) people care more about themselves than others while Passive (Simpletons) are exactly opposite. Both are extreme behaviour. Winning is more important for Smartys and less for Simpletons. Does that mean Simpletons don’t like to win? No it’s not like that. But Simpletons will not like to trample on other’s win and will like to sacrifice their wins.

Both the behaviour are bad for self. Anything extreme takes toll on yourself in long run. Feeling for Self and others is best form you should adopt. This is an Assertive behaviour and is win-win for everyone. Just like loving others is important so is Self-Love.

Nobody is born Assertive and but changing your extreme positions will support you in order live a Successful and Happy life.

The next time you see yourself being trampled by someone else it’s time to change yourself rather than others.

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Small Habits Big Impact!

You call up someone to get some information on say a contact number and when the information is given, you interrupt and make him hold and go on to a pen and paper hunt!

You have been called by your Boss and you enter his cabin and he blurts certain instructions, you run for pen and paper!

You go to book railway ticket (not very often these days) or to your bank to deposit a cheque and lo you remember something is missing and you start searching a poor soul for a pen!

What do these incidents show?Are we less serious about small things in our life? Or

Do we think these issues does not require the attention in front of big issues in our lives?

These have become our habit and we start enjoying our lackadaisical attitudes.

Though these incidences may be small but create lasting first impression about ourselves.

People immediately size you up and create an image of yours in their mind and use them to judge you in future which may be detrimental your interest.

The real question is how you change these minor and everlasting habits.

1. Become Aware that these incidences are small but creates absolutely bad first impression about us and thereby create an image and perception about us.

2. Accept that these habits need to be changed for our betterment.

3. Act on them by creating a process for a hassle free life and fantastic image.

Are you still struggling with small irritating habits?

By the way how many times you have seen people appearing for a job interview without the hard copy of CV!!

Thursday, December 4, 2014

What's your Mount Everest?

He is a bright young man who is in his second job. Today’s job scenario is nothing but roller-coaster ride.Every time he has some issue with his boss or in his organization his ultimate reaction used to log in to the job portal and look around. Luckily he used to get a couple of offers at any point of time.

Everyone thinks it’s better to get a more than one offer at a time. But the reality is like being a donkey who is hungry for a long time and gets haystack on both his sides. The donkey could not eat any, unable to decide which one to attack first.

Whenever this friend of mine face such "donkey" situation he used to turn to me. Since both the offers have their positives and negatives it was really tough to choose one.

I faced similar situations in my life (not in my career) as well. In order to control my emotions I created a tool which not only helped me but it can be lighthouse to everyone else also.

I called this tool as Mount Everest.

My question is what’s your Mount Everest?

If you are clear about your Mount Everest then this is your ultimate goal.

If you are clear about final destination only job left is to find the best path which takes you there.Even when you are not at a cross roads like my friend you should know your final destination or else you will be a captain less ship.

Those who are unaware of their Mount Everest always go through a Valueless career choice, where they get moolah but hardly enjoy the journey.

Do you know your Mount Everest?