What's your Maturity?

In a recent training program in one of the best bank in this country I faced a situation which is not very normal to me.During a debrief after an activity on the importance of body language a participant said with a dejected tone "these are not applicable in daily life.” A normal reaction would have been to give her your piece of your mind.Though taken aback,I did not react,regained my composure and made her understand the logic behind the body language with more examples and role play.

By the end of the program she started seeking guidance on her life.

Cut to a situation four years ago when a participant behaved in rowdy manner, I was on fire and made sure nobody should not mess with me on my subject.

What made the change happen?

Why did I have new approach towards others?

While discussing these two incidents with my coach I realized a sense of maturity in my perspective.

That made me think-what is maturity?

Who is a mature person? Does maturity come with age?

Let's understand…

• When you have a difference of opinion with your father and you still respect him and behave normally and that's maturity.
• When you see your son doing something which is not as per your "values" and still you are friends with him, that's maturity.
• When you have fight with your spouse and you are looking for some alibi to talk to her, that's maturity.
• When your friend's political views are diagonally opposite to you, and you are the first to help him in times of need is maturity.
• When your neighbor follow a different route to the Almighty and still you are one to donate blood in his need is maturity.
• When you find more salt in your food and still don't react, that’s maturity.
• When you start accepting people with different opinions and views that's maturity.
• When you work hard and do not get what you expect and still you enjoy the situation that's maturity.
• When accept good and not so good situations in your life with equanimity that’s being mature.
• When you detach yourself for bad turn of events that's being mature.

Can you mature with age, not necessary? But with experience you start accepting the reality of life, that’s being mature.

Being Mature is Being Human...

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If you have any issues which has become a mind-block, do connect with me before it's too late.

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Is the world full of Hypocrites?

When I started my journey in the corporate world, during one of the tele call with a partner my boss heard me screaming .He called me in his cabin and started giving me a piece of his mind on how to communicate with partners .

Being a greenhorn I did not like the “gyan”and came out his cabin after the customary nodding of affirmative understanding.

After sometime the entire office reverberated with a loud scream. It was coming from inside the cabin and peeping into his cabin made us aware that the choicest of words were meant for the housekeeping boy.

“Sir yeh toh roj ka hai…khud paper kidhar rakh denge and mere par chillayenge!”Retorted our Ramu.

“The entire office celebrated “save paper save environment” day. Before going for a review meeting the boss had taken a print outs of a two hundred pages PowerPoint presentation!

When I started on my own learning and development business I facilitated programs on empathetic listening. The same evening I yelled at home at the drop of hat!

A father admonished his son if lies at home but he starts his office interaction with a lie when he was asked the reason for coming late.

Lot of big training organization will lecture on how compensations play an important role in motivating employees. While the same training organization would pay zilch to the trainers which are many a times less than the money paid to the DJ wale babu of the evening party!

As a nation also we pay more “respect” to our teachers than the salary!

A nation of hypocrites!

How old is this trait in human history can be understood by the following anecdote...

“In the garden of Gethsemane, Judas Iscariot went up to Jesus and “kissed him very tenderly.” This was a customary expression of warm affection. But Judas’ gesture was only a pretense to identify Jesus to those who had come in the night to arrest him. (Matthew 26:48, 49) Judas was a hypocrite—a person who pretends to be what he is not, someone who hides his bad motives behind a mask of sincerity.

Judas is still living inside us.

Not only in the corporate world but every strata of life we will find has Judas.

Hypocrisy is historic rather prehistoric!

"We are all hypocrites. We cannot see ourselves or judge ourselves the way we see and judge others" as said by José Emilio Pacheco.

This hypocrisy is creating cracks in structures called character.

How do we avoid being a hypocrite?

How can we live up to our commitment and remove the mask?

Here are the few things we can practice:

• Practice Integrity
• Avoid judging others
• Improve your moral quotient
• Understand others
• Under promise and over deliver
• Think before committing
• Be detached of personalities and beliefs

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How "Huborgs" can transform our lives?

In a recent talk at the World Government Summit in Dubai, Tesla and SpaceX CEO Elon Musk said humans would have to merge with machines to avoid becoming irrelevant. Musk explained human brains are not capable of keeping up with computers which would start replacing people in certain fields of the work. 

Now the real question is, why human brain is not able to keep up its own resolutions most of the time?

Human brain knows what is good or bad for us. That’s why we human being plan many resolutions for our betterment. However the same brain ditches us when it’s the time to implement them. The human brain knows certain things like greed, lust, anger, etc. are bad for us, and still the same brain allows us to indulge in them. Also on top of it the same brain justifies the action!

Isn’t it pretty frustrating when we want to do something which is beneficial for us but we end up doing the exact opposite?

What’s the solution?

Imagine a situation when the human brain only plans and a part of it, which is machine aided brain implements it. This will eliminate the issue of procrastinating on our New Year resolutions.

Human brain knows pornography is bad, so it resolves not to indulge in it, but alas…it motivates the same human being to enjoy it! Can this task of barring the human being from its indulgence be given to a machine aided brain?

Human brain knows anger is worst, still it can’t stop a human being from getting angry. Can this act of stopping be outsourced to a machine aided brain?

How we do we do this?

Yes the combination of human brain and a machine is the key.

If human heart can be controlled by a “pacemaker” why not the human brain can controlled by a “director” which is a brain aided by a machine which I am calling as “Huborg” which can be programmed to implement things for us which we have planned. In case we don't the "Huborg" sends electrical signals which are not enjoyable, which will force us to action the plans. Anyway many lessor mortals don’t implement things unless we forced to. The "Huborg" can be a great boon such people to be far more successful.

If this happens just imagine how each human being changes and enhances his potential to achieve his dreams. As they say we humans utilize only 40% of our potential. We can bring a revolution, a transformation in the way humans behave or rather “Huborg” behave and nears cent percent potential utilization.

As of now it seems like a sci-fi, but sooner than later “Huborg” will be a reality!

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